The Nine (9) Most Common Regrets People Have At The End of Their Life

Recently, I was reading a blog post by Grace Bluerock that really hit me.  Grace had spent 6 years working in a hospice taking care of men and women who knew they were going to die.

Many of these folks reflected back on their lives trying to come to peace with their decisions and in retrospect identifying their regrets.

Over the years, Grace found there were nine (9) common regrets that came up over and over again.  Here they are:

  1. I wish I had been more loving to the people who matter most
  2. I wish I had been a better spouse, parent or child
  3. I wish I had not spent so much time working
  4. I wish I had taken more risks
  5. I wish I had been happier and enjoyed life more
  6. I wish I had lived my own dream
  7. I wish I had taken better care of myself
  8. I wish I had done more for others
  9. I wish I had chosen work that was meaningful to me

As I read over the nine regrets above, I noticed the power of number 6 - I wish I had lived my own dream.

You see, if your living your own dream, it takes care of so many of the other regrets.  By living your own dream, you're happier, want to share more of your life with others and your life becomes meaningful.  Living your own dream also builds your self-esteem and self worth and encourages you to take risks. 

So why is so hard to live our own dreams?

One word.  Expectations.

Others expectations of you, society's expectations of you, your boss's expectation of you, and so on.

You see, unless you break out of the cycle of living based on what the world around you wants from you and start focusing on what YOU want, you may end up with many of the regrets above.

The good news.  You can change the actions you take TODAY to start reclaiming what you really want in life.  Start slow if you have to by just changing one small part of your life and then add on to it, but start!


LIFE MATTERS – Why Your Life is like The Matrix and Why You Should Take the Red Pill Now.

                From the 1999 science fiction cult favorite - The Matrix

                From the 1999 science fiction cult favorite - The Matrix

Most people are familiar with the scene in The Matrix where Keanu Reeves is presented with a choice:

either take the “blue pill” where the story ends and Keanu will remain living in the fabricated reality that the Matrix has created – not realizing the true nature of things;

or take the “red pill” and escape the illusion and live in the real world.

Keanu Reeves wants to know the truth so he takes the red pill – but which would you take?

What if you could connect back to the REAL YOU – you know the one you may have seen glimpses of when you were young?

Or what if you could reignite the fire that you may have had when you finished school with everything possible ahead of you.  The fire that has gradually burned less over time to the point it may be at the verge of being extinguished.

What if you could feel inspired and motivated every day because you’re working toward something you really believe in?

What if you could break free from the daily grind and really create the change you want?

You see, today more than ever there is so much information that enters our every day life that we are constantly trying to process and evaluate it all.  From the Internet, to TV, music, government, friends, family, social media and on and on and it all fights for our minds.

With all these mixed messages, the mind tries hard to process it all and we move toward a way of life that reflects our interpretation of it.  Worse yet, our friends, families and co-workers set expectations and influence our decisions.  At some point you realize that all along your actions are really based on:

What other people want – not what YOU want!

You see, today it’s very easy to set goals around what others want EXTERNALLY rather than what you want INTERNALLY.

What’s the difference?

Have you ever experienced a time when you enjoyed what you were doing so much you didn’t notice how much time had passed?

Have you ever felt joy and happiness that was uninhibited?

Have you ever felt what you were doing had real meaning?

When you set goals that are external, they may provide short-term happiness, but in the long run you’re left unfulfilled and wanting.

So what’s the key?

Connect to what has true meaning for you INTERNALLY and set your goals from there.

Here’s how to do it:

Action-Steps: Answer the questions below and see if you can identify your true purpose.

·      What do you really want in life?  Make a list and start each entry with:
       “I want to …..”

·      When have you been at your happiest?  Why were you so happy?

·      Who do you admire most?  Why do you admire them so much?

·      If you could pick one contribution that you made to the world before your life is over, what            would it be?

Now, look at your answers and see how far you are from what you want?  Can you get there?


The key is to take action NOW to move yourself toward the ultimate you, the REAL you. 

Life is too short.  Don’t waste a single minute more!




Managers Who Kill Innovation

When making decisions on new initiatives, separating managers who will be responsible for the implementation from those who make the ultimate decision to go ahead, may be the key to better innovation.

Make sure to separate the functions to let the great ideas get through.  Read the full article here: